WEBVTT 00:00:03.980 --> 00:00:08.620 After 15 years of dating, Ms. Ha Anh Ba Dinh Ha Noi once believed that her 00:00:08.620 --> 00:00:10.360 relationship would have a happy ending. 00:00:10.820 --> 00:00:14.240 However, after 3 years of waiting for her lover to go abroad to study, she was 00:00:14.240 --> 00:00:17.020 shocked to discover that he had another person and an illegitimate child abroad. 00:00:17.560 --> 00:00:20.060 The truth was confirmed after she took the initiative to argue. 00:00:20.360 --> 00:00:23.746 The man who had vowed for a hundred years confessed that he had maintained 00:00:23.746 --> 00:00:25.440 an affair in the past two years, 00:00:25.820 --> 00:00:29.940 while still texting and calling her as if nothing had changed. 00:00:31.081 --> 00:00:33.361 He and I have been in love for 3 times 00:00:33.361 --> 00:00:35.721 We have been together for over 15 years 00:00:35.721 --> 00:00:37.721 How old are you for youth 00:00:37.721 --> 00:00:38.841 How many plans 00:00:38.841 --> 00:00:41.121 I always put faith in this relationship 00:00:41.121 --> 00:00:42.981 When he went abroad to study 00:00:42.981 --> 00:00:45.321 I am a person of encouragement and support 00:00:45.321 --> 00:00:47.281 Thinking that just you two need to try 00:00:47.686 --> 00:00:49.041 and the gap was not successful 00:00:49.041 --> 00:00:53.446 She fell in love with all her trust and patience waiting for him to study 00:00:53.446 --> 00:00:57.856 abroad, thinking that the years of youth together were a solid foundation for the future. 00:00:58.256 --> 00:01:01.936 However, in the end, what she received was a silent exchange. 00:01:02.738 --> 00:01:06.756 However, after 3 years, I discovered that he had been with someone else for 2 00:01:06.756 --> 00:01:08.898 years and even had a child with her. 00:01:09.658 --> 00:01:11.558 I was so shocked that I couldn't believe it. 00:01:12.258 --> 00:01:17.758 The person I call youth, the future, could betray me in such a quiet way. 00:01:18.498 --> 00:01:21.458 Sometimes he says he is busy, sometimes he avoids calling to go around. 00:01:21.998 --> 00:01:26.638 Now everyone has an explanation, just not the answer I hope for. 00:01:27.358 --> 00:01:32.298 I don't know how long it will take me to overcome this shock, but perhaps the heartbreaking thing is, 00:01:32.738 --> 00:01:36.258 It's not that I betrayed him, but that I have been in love with someone I am no 00:01:36.258 --> 00:01:38.018 longer worthy of for 15 years of my life. 00:01:39.222 --> 00:01:43.138 The betrayal not only hid the end of a long relationship but also 00:01:43.138 --> 00:01:44.342 left deep psychological damage. 00:01:44.862 --> 00:01:48.222 According to psychologists, in cases where the other person intentionally conceals, 00:01:48.522 --> 00:01:52.272 reoffend or no longer have the will to correct his mistakes, leaving is 00:01:52.272 --> 00:01:54.002 something to consider to protect yourself. 00:01:54.427 --> 00:01:58.127 Stories about adultery are deep pain that is very difficult to heal 00:01:58.127 --> 00:02:00.507 To be able to solve and heal 00:02:00.507 --> 00:02:05.407 well, it needs great cooperation and overcoming difficulties from the two 00:02:05.407 --> 00:02:09.287 So basically, if it is good, let's never let this happen 00:02:09.287 --> 00:02:12.227 How to protect yourself in a relationship 00:02:12.227 --> 00:02:16.127 First of all, it is necessary to stop the habit of only forgiving 00:02:16.127 --> 00:02:18.187 But we must clearly identify the people 00:02:18.187 --> 00:02:20.707 If our opponent re-offends 00:02:20.707 --> 00:02:22.827 Then there will be heavier measures 00:02:22.827 --> 00:02:25.607 For example, separation or even immediate divorce 00:02:25.607 --> 00:02:27.147 Do not let it happen again 00:02:27.147 --> 00:02:31.447 Second, you need to seek psychological support and share your feelings 00:02:31.447 --> 00:02:34.807 With relatives, friends or directly with experts 00:02:34.807 --> 00:02:39.047 Third, you should build financial independence for yourself 00:02:39.047 --> 00:02:42.327 To help yourself have a certain fulcrum 00:02:42.327 --> 00:02:46.247 And fourth, let's face it frankly. 00:02:46.247 --> 00:02:48.227 If it had happened too many times 00:02:48.227 --> 00:02:50.247 Now people don't love you anymore 00:02:50.789 --> 00:02:53.961 Thanh Xuan is an acceptance, sometimes without needing to blame, just needing 00:02:53.961 --> 00:02:56.869 enough courage to move forward and learn to love yourself again.