WEBVTT 00:00:12.434 --> 00:00:16.014 Greetings to you and your friends to the 9th hour. 00:00:20.011 --> 00:00:25.491 Ladies and gentlemen, love stories are always an immortal topic and romance, 00:00:25.951 --> 00:00:29.491 while dating is also written in handwritten form by many psychologists. 00:00:30.131 --> 00:00:33.871 That proves that love also needs psychological masters, 00:00:34.251 --> 00:00:38.551 in-depth love counseling and sharing experiences to flatter the other person. 00:00:39.411 --> 00:00:43.431 Love is like that, so breaking up also requires similar skills. 00:00:44.111 --> 00:00:49.091 Today, the editorial board has decided to send you an online dating story. 00:00:49.091 --> 00:00:52.471 with the details becoming more and more surprising towards the end. 00:00:52.799 --> 00:00:56.744 Yes, that's a confession from a female audience member sent to 00:00:56.744 --> 00:00:58.179 the 9th hour program. 00:00:58.179 --> 00:01:02.459 Beautiful single mother with the desire to find her other half 00:01:02.459 --> 00:01:04.999 So I chose dating to look for 00:01:04.999 --> 00:01:07.999 And she met a man of her dreams 00:01:07.999 --> 00:01:11.159 But I thought the story would have a happy ending 00:01:11.159 --> 00:01:12.519 But no 00:01:12.519 --> 00:01:16.179 Your story makes listeners feel somewhat unbelievable. 00:01:16.179 --> 00:01:17.979 But also extremely convincing 00:01:18.599 --> 00:01:22.579 Prominent in the story she told is a date she had never met 00:01:22.579 --> 00:01:24.719 How that story happened 00:01:24.719 --> 00:01:27.259 We invite you to listen to a story called 00:01:27.259 --> 00:01:30.499 Strange love affair right after 00:01:39.914 --> 00:01:44.334 I hesitated for a long time when I decided to share this dating story of mine. 00:01:45.314 --> 00:01:50.034 Because I know when I say the things I've been through recently, 00:01:50.734 --> 00:01:54.994 10 people listened, up to 9 people laughed, 1 person sympathized. 00:01:55.654 --> 00:01:59.689 But I think I should still share this story, because it sounds 00:01:59.689 --> 00:02:01.034 very unbelievable to hear. 00:02:01.574 --> 00:02:07.148 But it happened to me, causing myself to fall into a state of surprise and 00:02:07.148 --> 00:02:08.634 confusion in my behavior. 00:02:09.914 --> 00:02:14.914 My story started last year, 1 year since I came to this man. 00:02:15.614 --> 00:02:20.114 I thought I had the whole world, I thought after a cold marriage of nearly 00:02:20.114 --> 00:02:21.914 10 years I had just escaped, 00:02:22.434 --> 00:02:25.834 finally my heart has been warmed by love. 00:02:29.003 --> 00:02:33.483 Perhaps in almost every story, everyone is always the main role in their life. 00:02:34.343 --> 00:02:39.628 All those who come to our lives, no matter what, in our mouths, they are 00:02:39.628 --> 00:02:43.503 still just supporting roles, even villain roles or non-verbal mass roles. 00:02:44.563 --> 00:02:49.243 I still often humorously tell people like that, when someone tells me that 00:02:49.243 --> 00:02:51.763 they heard somewhere about my love affair. 00:02:51.763 --> 00:02:58.792 To be honest, men are infatuated is very obvious, only men who have no talent 00:02:58.792 --> 00:03:01.603 will not bother to be moved. 00:03:04.846 --> 00:03:07.486 Yes, you said that to me too. 00:03:08.426 --> 00:03:12.804 His mischievous appearance along with his attractive appearance and his 00:03:12.804 --> 00:03:16.306 success in his career, it became a reason. 00:03:17.386 --> 00:03:20.766 I was three years old, divorced at the age of 32 and raised 00:03:20.766 --> 00:03:22.066 my child from then on. 00:03:22.906 --> 00:03:26.592 After the post-divorce days, I gradually stabilized and balanced my 00:03:26.592 --> 00:03:28.066 spirit to live independently. 00:03:28.866 --> 00:03:32.246 But in my heart, I still always feel empty and lacking. 00:03:32.246 --> 00:03:36.346 I am young, I crave love and to be loved. 00:03:36.966 --> 00:03:38.326 That is a legitimate need. 00:03:39.106 --> 00:03:41.806 I am financially independent and have a maid. 00:03:42.506 --> 00:03:46.346 Working as a spa owner gives me time for myself. 00:03:46.786 --> 00:03:51.046 So sometimes I also often go to the dating app to find my other half. 00:03:52.106 --> 00:03:54.946 I also don't have much hope when dating online. 00:03:55.386 --> 00:03:58.392 Because truth and falsehood are obscure, full of stories of deceiving single 00:03:58.392 --> 00:04:00.646 mothers on the internet, I know it by heart. 00:04:02.246 --> 00:04:05.846 I don't understand why, right when playing the dating app for the first time, 00:04:06.386 --> 00:04:11.826 I hit him right away and almost fell in love with him from the first meeting. 00:04:13.662 --> 00:04:16.742 I also don't try to pretend to be something attractive on social media. 00:04:17.702 --> 00:04:21.034 Simply, just posting my information is enough for dozens of sisters to 00:04:21.034 --> 00:04:22.422 come and scout familiar villages. 00:04:23.602 --> 00:04:27.922 Without hiding anything, at the age of over 40, I have everything a man dreams of. 00:04:29.002 --> 00:04:32.702 Career, finance, appearance and sophistication. 00:04:34.162 --> 00:04:35.862 My friend still says I waste girls. 00:04:36.782 --> 00:04:42.902 I just think I love women, respect women and always need them in my life. 00:04:43.662 --> 00:04:47.762 My disadvantage is that I crave it and get bored quickly. 00:04:48.682 --> 00:04:51.262 No matter how beautiful and talented someone is. 00:04:52.782 --> 00:04:55.662 In the relationships I have gone through, I have never loved a 00:04:55.662 --> 00:04:57.102 woman who is ugly and underdeveloped. 00:04:58.262 --> 00:05:02.177 Perhaps they are like me, partly because they are completely picky or 00:05:02.177 --> 00:05:03.482 mostly as people say. 00:05:04.262 --> 00:05:08.922 God is very fair, if he gives you this, he will take away another from you. 00:05:10.002 --> 00:05:13.542 That's why I and even my girlfriend or ex-wife, 00:05:13.662 --> 00:05:18.622 we are all predestined lovers, even though we have been searching non-stop. 00:05:20.707 --> 00:05:25.705 It must be admitted that he attracts me right from the photos and the way he 00:05:25.705 --> 00:05:27.267 introduces himself on the app. 00:05:27.927 --> 00:05:32.374 Both arrogant and sophisticated, not to mention he is also very 00:05:32.374 --> 00:05:33.587 handsome and famous. 00:05:34.427 --> 00:05:39.827 I know you through the works you make, a perfect person like you, 00:05:40.187 --> 00:05:43.787 then why can you be single and use a dating app? 00:05:44.667 --> 00:05:47.547 At first I thought it was an island account. 00:05:47.547 --> 00:05:51.507 Unexpectedly, our conversation became more and more intense. 00:05:52.147 --> 00:05:54.547 You provide information that I can verify. 00:05:55.227 --> 00:05:57.187 Then he arranged for me to go for coffee. 00:05:58.267 --> 00:06:03.247 I have gone through a few relationships, loved, married and gone through breakups. 00:06:04.107 --> 00:06:09.262 I think at this age, no matter how much I desire love, I can no longer have the 00:06:09.262 --> 00:06:11.267 feeling of love like the first time. 00:06:13.747 --> 00:06:17.007 You are just like a man who stepped out of a love story. 00:06:17.547 --> 00:06:21.147 And I was infatuated with him from the first meeting. 00:06:23.009 --> 00:06:26.669 My name is Mai, a girl I just met on the dating app. 00:06:27.889 --> 00:06:31.269 Mai has eyes full of emotions and a fierce womanly look. 00:06:32.929 --> 00:06:37.762 How to say it, I like women who are stylish, have feelings, beautiful, 00:06:37.762 --> 00:06:39.249 self-reliant and craving love. 00:06:40.369 --> 00:06:41.529 That's what I like most. 00:06:42.669 --> 00:06:46.449 I am most afraid that when you talk about love, you are more alert than when you count money. 00:06:47.189 --> 00:06:50.709 Extremely pragmatic women are like ancient trees that have used leaves and 00:06:50.709 --> 00:06:52.469 are solid, but they are useless. 00:06:53.629 --> 00:06:58.029 Women who also want to love are gentle, infatuated, passionate and 00:06:58.029 --> 00:06:59.229 full of charm. 00:07:00.589 --> 00:07:03.962 Women must be fiercely feminine like that to arouse the desire 00:07:03.962 --> 00:07:05.189 to conquer of men. 00:07:06.829 --> 00:07:11.109 Luckily, Mai also likes the extravagant and sophisticated style like me. 00:07:12.189 --> 00:07:15.196 This is not something I fantasize about myself, but too many people 00:07:15.196 --> 00:07:16.449 talk about me like that. 00:07:18.389 --> 00:07:21.809 Well, the story of an experienced single man 00:07:21.809 --> 00:07:26.649 and a woman who had just gone through a breakup, so many new emotions. 00:07:28.737 --> 00:07:33.097 I thought his date was not married, I was not married, we both just met and 00:07:33.097 --> 00:07:37.457 loved each other, it would be peaceful and have a magical ending like a fairy tale. 00:07:38.377 --> 00:07:43.944 Saying it out loud, someone will laugh, no, this mother is almost middle-aged, 00:07:43.944 --> 00:07:47.797 sexually promiscuous and still dreams like a teenage girl. 00:07:48.717 --> 00:07:54.112 But what can I do, when I am originally someone who cannot learn any story of 00:07:54.112 --> 00:07:55.797 experience after breakups in love. 00:07:55.797 --> 00:08:01.260 The date was simply sitting together at a coffee shop, a familiar place where he 00:08:01.260 --> 00:08:02.717 said he often sat. 00:08:03.297 --> 00:08:06.347 And I also realized that because the photos he posted all had 00:08:06.347 --> 00:08:07.617 familiar corners of the shop. 00:08:08.477 --> 00:08:15.557 A story without beginning or end, but he and I sat from 10 am until nearly 2 pm. 00:08:16.337 --> 00:08:19.417 Sitting together at the restaurant ordering food and continuing to talk. 00:08:19.737 --> 00:08:25.537 Until we stepped home, our story continued with endless messages. 00:08:26.821 --> 00:08:31.371 Then everything is still simple, sharing the same wave, not bound, emotions just 00:08:31.371 --> 00:08:33.121 push up hour by hour. 00:08:34.501 --> 00:08:38.821 I understand Mai's desire as well as many women I have conquered before. 00:08:39.861 --> 00:08:45.188 With Mai, I feel a bit shy, not daring to read the song because she is naive 00:08:45.188 --> 00:08:47.381 and places too much expectation and love. 00:08:48.981 --> 00:08:52.587 Mai also went through breakups, also expressed that she kept thinking of men 00:08:52.587 --> 00:08:55.361 as a bunch of bad guys until she met you. 00:08:56.821 --> 00:09:01.899 Oh my god Mai, every man is the same, it's just that the time spent on 00:09:01.899 --> 00:09:04.121 relationships between men and women is different. 00:09:05.181 --> 00:09:06.581 No one can love someone forever. 00:09:07.701 --> 00:09:12.561 I wanted to say that to her, but looking at Mai's talking eyes, I stopped. 00:09:13.701 --> 00:09:16.381 She doesn't deserve to suffer any more hurt. 00:09:17.601 --> 00:09:23.741 She just wants to be loved, and Mai is also very worthy of love. 00:09:25.478 --> 00:09:30.547 Can anyone believe it? A man, a match-fixed woman, are flirting with 00:09:30.547 --> 00:09:32.658 each other and seemingly sober. 00:09:33.718 --> 00:09:37.958 It's been almost three months, he and I haven't even gotten to bed yet. 00:09:39.038 --> 00:09:43.420 Yes, from cherishing him in the early days of dating, he absolutely did not 00:09:43.420 --> 00:09:45.298 suggest or express anything about it. 00:09:45.638 --> 00:09:50.726 He said that it is not the destination of a relationship and should not be 00:09:50.726 --> 00:09:53.778 attributed to it to prove that it is love. 00:09:53.778 --> 00:09:56.378 Or use it to bind someone. 00:09:57.338 --> 00:10:02.330 Make love when both of you want it and do not demand the other person to 00:10:02.330 --> 00:10:03.578 take responsibility for it. 00:10:04.558 --> 00:10:07.438 At that time, I saw this as a very new idea. 00:10:08.218 --> 00:10:11.798 No man has dated me, told me about it. 00:10:12.658 --> 00:10:17.018 Everyone just looked at me with an eager look and hinted around. 00:10:17.358 --> 00:10:20.598 But, dating for free until the third month, 00:10:21.358 --> 00:10:23.758 then I also started to doubt enough. 00:10:28.102 --> 00:10:32.768 It's not that I don't crave Mai, but because Mai always puts lovemaking as 00:10:32.768 --> 00:10:34.102 something sacred and connected, 00:10:34.642 --> 00:10:38.956 is the harmony of two loving souls, all kinds of dreamy emotions that she came 00:10:38.956 --> 00:10:40.682 up with and attributed to it. 00:10:41.502 --> 00:10:45.402 Meanwhile, for me, making love is just making love. 00:10:46.302 --> 00:10:51.230 Of course, I have never been to peel and pay, so I can't compare that women 00:10:51.230 --> 00:10:52.462 are all the same. 00:10:52.462 --> 00:10:57.846 But for me, what I fear most and don't want to commit to most is 00:10:57.846 --> 00:10:59.282 commitment in a relationship. 00:11:00.442 --> 00:11:04.182 Life is already very fragile, human emotions are also like that. 00:11:05.382 --> 00:11:09.624 I myself am very afraid of being tied up, Mai is too much expecting of me and 00:11:09.624 --> 00:11:11.122 also wants to have more children. 00:11:12.562 --> 00:11:16.562 This made me falter, and I gradually fell for dating. 00:11:17.522 --> 00:11:20.482 But Mai seemed to want to go with me to the end of her life. 00:11:22.462 --> 00:11:26.902 Well, I admire her perseverance and loveworthiness immensely. 00:11:30.674 --> 00:11:34.165 The relationship entered its third month, but I still don't know 00:11:34.165 --> 00:11:35.434 any of his friends. 00:11:36.354 --> 00:11:41.012 His relationships, in addition to a few people working together that I also met 00:11:41.012 --> 00:11:43.674 casually, he seemed to have no close friends. 00:11:44.654 --> 00:11:47.374 Every time I come to the house, I only see him. 00:11:48.074 --> 00:11:51.214 He said he is introverted and doesn't like to communicate. 00:11:51.994 --> 00:11:53.234 But I don't see that. 00:11:53.914 --> 00:11:58.414 He is still online on social media platforms, still dating even though he already has me. 00:11:58.414 --> 00:12:03.454 A couple of times I asked, why are you still online on those platforms? 00:12:03.874 --> 00:12:08.585 Then he said, even when husband and wife are together, people feel lonely, 00:12:08.585 --> 00:12:10.034 and also dating relationships. 00:12:11.274 --> 00:12:16.214 There were times when I tried to provoke him to see if he was a real man? 00:12:16.834 --> 00:12:19.234 Then I affirm that you are a man. 00:12:20.254 --> 00:12:24.794 But because of some fear, he definitely didn't have sex with me. 00:12:25.294 --> 00:12:28.034 You said, you're not ready. 00:12:28.414 --> 00:12:34.094 This makes me both annoyed, hurt, and deadlocked. 00:12:36.250 --> 00:12:41.007 Ladies and gentlemen, in our story, the self-reliant, confident, and beautiful 00:12:41.007 --> 00:12:45.330 divorced woman meets the man she likes on their appointment. 00:12:46.270 --> 00:12:51.330 They met in real life and the woman felt confused about the attractive and strange man. 00:12:52.370 --> 00:12:56.170 She continued to explore her lover. Will this love have an end? 00:12:56.890 --> 00:13:01.610 Please watch the next part of the story broadcast on Sunday this week.