WEBVTT 00:00:12.502 --> 00:00:15.791 Ladies and gentlemen, the couple has a 10 year old child, the 00:00:15.791 --> 00:00:17.162 husband lives in the South. 00:00:18.442 --> 00:00:22.522 As for the wife, she worked in the North, and their relationship gradually became cold. 00:00:23.202 --> 00:00:27.566 The wife was having an affair with a young man, suddenly the wife went to the 00:00:27.566 --> 00:00:30.022 South to visit her husband, the visit was unexpected. 00:00:30.782 --> 00:00:32.462 What would happen in this situation? 00:00:33.302 --> 00:00:36.722 Please continue to follow our story below. 00:00:45.914 --> 00:00:50.349 My wife's sudden appearance put me in a passive position, and I could 00:00:50.349 --> 00:00:51.714 not hide my cheating. 00:00:52.854 --> 00:00:58.074 Somehow my parents didn't tell me, and then everything fell apart. 00:00:59.414 --> 00:01:03.094 Yes, I am her husband, I had an affair. 00:01:04.014 --> 00:01:09.334 Moreover, I have a common-law wife and a daughter who is older than my son. 00:01:10.754 --> 00:01:13.674 My fake wife is my first love. 00:01:13.674 --> 00:01:18.263 Today, we had many unforgettable memories, and I got married because 00:01:18.263 --> 00:01:19.514 I hated her. 00:01:20.454 --> 00:01:24.448 Then it was discovered that she gave birth to her own child and raised 00:01:24.448 --> 00:01:25.874 it alone for 3 years. 00:01:27.234 --> 00:01:31.254 At this time, I was married and had a son a few months old. 00:01:32.534 --> 00:01:35.981 My parents later found out and accepted my father-in-law, but refused 00:01:35.981 --> 00:01:37.234 to let me divorce. 00:01:37.814 --> 00:01:41.151 And threatened that even if I divorced, my grandparents would not accept my 00:01:41.151 --> 00:01:42.434 first love as a daughter-in-law. 00:01:42.434 --> 00:01:47.889 She is a person full of pride, but because the child needs a father, she 00:01:47.889 --> 00:01:50.434 decided to stay with me without marriage. 00:01:52.434 --> 00:01:57.101 I promise you that when my son is stronger, I will divorce him to 00:01:57.101 --> 00:01:58.434 bring Hoang to you. 00:01:59.434 --> 00:02:04.651 Time passed by, from dating her first love, to deciding to make up for the 00:02:04.651 --> 00:02:07.434 losses that mother and daughter had to endure. 00:02:08.434 --> 00:02:11.434 I bought an apartment and lived together as a family. 00:02:12.434 --> 00:02:17.434 I didn't think my wife would come all the way here just to visit her husband. 00:02:18.434 --> 00:02:21.434 She never wanted to visit me. 00:02:21.434 --> 00:02:23.240 I didn't think my wife would come all the way here just to visit her husband. 00:02:23.240 --> 00:02:25.487 So what I had predicted came true. 00:02:26.347 --> 00:02:29.607 Not only is it a mix-up, but my husband also has his own family. 00:02:30.587 --> 00:02:35.527 My husband's daughter is 13 years old this year, older than my son and him. 00:02:36.727 --> 00:02:42.824 Strangely enough, when I learned everything he confessed, I didn't feel 00:02:42.824 --> 00:02:44.487 jealous, just sad. 00:02:45.567 --> 00:02:50.007 It turns out, what you sow, God will reward you accordingly. 00:02:50.007 --> 00:02:53.747 Even worse than what I brought upon myself. 00:02:54.947 --> 00:02:57.907 I became silent before his old love story. 00:02:59.027 --> 00:03:02.887 It turns out, I was just a substitute in his relationship with his first love. 00:03:03.587 --> 00:03:08.027 Because to get revenge on his first love who dumped him, he married me. 00:03:08.767 --> 00:03:12.154 It turned out that he didn't want to transfer his job back to the North 00:03:12.154 --> 00:03:14.187 because he had returned to the person he loved. 00:03:15.327 --> 00:03:17.687 Really, you and that person are a family. 00:03:18.107 --> 00:03:19.987 I am just a wife in name only. 00:03:20.007 --> 00:03:25.537 My son is compensated by the money he receives from his brother, the love of 00:03:25.537 --> 00:03:28.487 his grandparents and the care of his mother. 00:03:29.367 --> 00:03:35.107 His daughter and the person he loves have everything, except for a title. 00:03:36.627 --> 00:03:38.747 I laughed bitterly at this situation. 00:03:39.647 --> 00:03:42.267 I see myself as having no right to fight for jealousy. 00:03:43.127 --> 00:03:47.867 He didn't even want to see his wife and daughter. 00:03:47.867 --> 00:03:52.867 For the first time in my life, I felt like I had nothing to hold on to. 00:03:52.867 --> 00:03:59.950 Besides money and my son, I have no one who truly loves me, not my husband or 00:03:59.950 --> 00:04:02.867 the son I had an affair with. 00:04:02.867 --> 00:04:08.867 Why? Yet everyone thinks I have it all. 00:04:08.867 --> 00:04:13.867 I stared blankly, ignoring what he said. 00:04:13.867 --> 00:04:17.867 I know in my heart, no one loves me. 00:04:17.867 --> 00:04:18.867 I have no one to love my husband. 00:04:18.867 --> 00:04:22.867 I myself have gotten used to life without you by my side. 00:04:22.867 --> 00:04:28.867 So, this is just an excuse for us to rearrange our lives. 00:04:28.867 --> 00:04:35.007 Anyway, the young man and I have passed, but the old man has not yet arrived. 00:04:37.000 --> 00:04:42.223 I saw her lose her temper for more than ten days, no answer to calls, no reply 00:04:42.223 --> 00:04:44.680 to messages, then back to a lifeless state. 00:04:45.600 --> 00:04:49.520 I suddenly felt worried, wondering what had happened to her. 00:04:50.620 --> 00:04:53.960 I kept asking, but she just kept silent, looking blankly. 00:04:55.400 --> 00:04:59.600 Then suddenly, she turned to me and asked, are you planning to marry the 00:04:59.600 --> 00:05:01.400 doctor? How far has it progressed? 00:05:01.400 --> 00:05:07.258 Then without waiting for me to answer, she spoke in a tone that was neither sad 00:05:07.258 --> 00:05:09.820 nor happy, but was telling someone's story. 00:05:10.760 --> 00:05:16.346 That a few days ago, she visited her husband and discovered that he had 00:05:16.346 --> 00:05:18.340 another family, his first love. 00:05:19.180 --> 00:05:23.060 They even had a daughter before he married her. 00:05:25.280 --> 00:05:29.665 I was quite shocked to hear this story, my heart filled with sympathy, I just 00:05:29.665 --> 00:05:31.420 wanted to hug and comfort her. 00:05:33.420 --> 00:05:35.480 She suddenly stood up and said she had to go pick up her child. 00:05:36.920 --> 00:05:41.420 I whispered enough for her to hear that I would come to her house tonight. 00:05:42.760 --> 00:05:48.260 She looked me straight in the eye and said clearly, let's finish. 00:05:49.900 --> 00:05:53.240 Then without waiting for my answer, she walked away. 00:05:55.486 --> 00:05:58.986 The following days continued, she did not come to my shop again. 00:06:00.186 --> 00:06:03.146 Texting no reply, calling no answer. 00:06:04.046 --> 00:06:07.886 In desperation, several times I pretended to run past the house and 00:06:07.886 --> 00:06:09.166 found the door closed. 00:06:10.206 --> 00:06:12.846 Maybe she went back to her husband's parents or her parents' house. 00:06:13.646 --> 00:06:17.366 Or maybe she needs time to calm down after everything. 00:06:18.966 --> 00:06:22.646 I still text her every day, regardless of whether she reads it or not. 00:06:22.646 --> 00:06:28.286 I just want you to know that I still wish you well. 00:06:30.502 --> 00:06:35.149 A month of silence and deep thought, I still performed the role of a mother and 00:06:35.149 --> 00:06:36.602 went to work as usual. 00:06:37.522 --> 00:06:40.542 I was so calm that no one noticed anything had changed in me. 00:06:41.502 --> 00:06:46.227 I was also quite surprised at my reaction to the shocking stories 00:06:46.227 --> 00:06:47.802 that other women told. 00:06:48.882 --> 00:06:51.462 What is more painful than betrayal and lies? 00:06:52.342 --> 00:06:58.062 Or am I the traitor and liar that I find this so inconceivable? 00:06:58.062 --> 00:07:05.062 Or deep down, I know I don't love my husband enough to be jealous, to 00:07:05.062 --> 00:07:06.462 feel extreme pain. 00:07:08.142 --> 00:07:13.073 Anyway, from that day on, I was immersed in thoughts of gains and losses, 00:07:13.073 --> 00:07:14.482 more than feeling hurt. 00:07:14.482 --> 00:07:18.237 Because it turned out that my husband's whole family knew everything but kept 00:07:18.237 --> 00:07:19.682 quiet to lie to me. 00:07:20.342 --> 00:07:23.682 As for me, I pretend to be virtuous and virtuous. 00:07:25.002 --> 00:07:27.942 In the end, it's just a bunch of tricks. 00:07:28.962 --> 00:07:30.422 I think of my son. 00:07:31.162 --> 00:07:33.862 If divorced, his father may come home less often. 00:07:34.522 --> 00:07:37.742 And what shall I say about your half-sister? 00:07:38.622 --> 00:07:39.842 When to say? 00:07:40.982 --> 00:07:42.662 How will I live after divorce? 00:07:43.922 --> 00:07:47.422 Actually, I have never had a normal marriage. 00:07:48.162 --> 00:07:51.647 Connections so familiar that when they are apart, they can 00:07:51.647 --> 00:07:53.042 feel lonely and empty. 00:07:53.822 --> 00:07:56.722 So, if this marriage stops, 00:07:58.062 --> 00:08:03.886 need a security plan for me and my child more than missing my husband and what 00:08:03.886 --> 00:08:05.342 will happen to me. 00:08:10.402 --> 00:08:15.774 The three-hour phone conversation between my wife and I officially ended 00:08:15.774 --> 00:08:19.682 our loveless marriage, at least on my part. 00:08:21.402 --> 00:08:25.947 My feelings for my wife and son were still intact, so whenever she asked for 00:08:25.947 --> 00:08:27.462 anything, I agreed to everything. 00:08:28.222 --> 00:08:32.724 I just hope that in the future, she will find someone who truly loves her, shares 00:08:32.724 --> 00:08:36.102 and understands her so that she can have a satisfactory life journey. 00:08:36.102 --> 00:08:41.140 I also felt a little relieved of the burden of being a traitor, because once 00:08:41.140 --> 00:08:46.178 the court case was over, I would be a free man, I could officially give 00:08:46.178 --> 00:08:47.522 my lover a title. 00:08:49.202 --> 00:08:53.322 I'm planning to go back to the North, this time I feel very suffocated. 00:08:54.562 --> 00:08:59.822 After 10 years of marriage, she has done nothing wrong to me. 00:09:00.702 --> 00:09:04.632 My son always loves his father, studies well and is the 00:09:04.632 --> 00:09:06.062 pride of his grandparents. 00:09:06.102 --> 00:09:11.882 Such a perfect family, yet a bad father like me ruined it. 00:09:12.742 --> 00:09:17.711 Even though I agreed to keep the divorce a secret and have my own family with my 00:09:17.711 --> 00:09:20.342 son, I still felt uneasy when I saw him. 00:09:22.492 --> 00:09:26.452 Obviously, children are the victims in all these stories. 00:09:26.452 --> 00:09:31.672 And adults always find reasons to justify their mistakes. 00:09:34.068 --> 00:09:36.468 We settled after going to court. 00:09:37.468 --> 00:09:39.768 From the time I returned until I received the court decision, 00:09:40.468 --> 00:09:44.888 I feel empty inside, not sad but not resentful either. 00:09:45.968 --> 00:09:48.468 I realized our marriage was just a shell, 00:09:49.168 --> 00:09:50.808 but the core is empty. 00:09:51.708 --> 00:09:54.748 No common goals, no child-rearing together, 00:09:55.128 --> 00:09:59.048 not sharing with each other every day, not sharing the same joys and sorrows. 00:09:59.948 --> 00:10:02.208 A relationship that only requires monthly money transfers 00:10:02.208 --> 00:10:06.068 and please both families and those around. 00:10:07.328 --> 00:10:10.468 Sometimes I think, maybe it's because I don't love my husband, 00:10:11.048 --> 00:10:12.328 so i don't want to keep. 00:10:13.528 --> 00:10:16.228 I agree with all your decisions. 00:10:17.228 --> 00:10:20.208 Hearing that, everyone thinks I am a wife who indulges her husband. 00:10:21.288 --> 00:10:23.148 Actually, only I understand. 00:10:23.828 --> 00:10:28.648 My marriage, in large part, came about because I had to get married. 00:10:29.208 --> 00:10:32.188 And just like you, and I both need things, 00:10:32.208 --> 00:10:35.668 both see some points of equal status and suitability. 00:10:36.668 --> 00:10:38.688 From date to wedding, so fast, 00:10:39.268 --> 00:10:40.928 I have not yet fully understood my husband, 00:10:41.448 --> 00:10:43.728 then entered marriage as a joke. 00:10:45.528 --> 00:10:48.368 Saying these things, after a long time, 00:10:49.188 --> 00:10:51.308 can not tell anyone the ugliness in my heart. 00:10:52.068 --> 00:10:53.348 I feel better. 00:10:55.368 --> 00:10:57.568 I don't know how people love each other in society, 00:10:58.068 --> 00:11:00.908 how to swear, pledge, and keep promises 00:11:00.908 --> 00:11:04.908 After living together, but I know around me, 00:11:04.908 --> 00:11:08.908 There are also many people who enter marriage without any preparation. 00:11:08.908 --> 00:11:12.408 And instead of joining hands, we remain silent, 00:11:12.408 --> 00:11:16.908 and let the other side understand, then sleep together but dream different dreams. 00:11:16.908 --> 00:11:19.908 And ends quickly with many lessons. 00:11:19.908 --> 00:11:25.908 Speaking for myself, I admit, I'm not exactly a virtuous person. 00:11:25.908 --> 00:11:29.908 So, I don't think I'm a victim of the story either. 00:11:29.908 --> 00:11:30.908 So, I don't think I'm a victim of the story either. 00:11:30.908 --> 00:11:34.908 Not blaming makes me look at things more lightly. 00:11:37.576 --> 00:11:39.136 I also started planning to get married. 00:11:40.196 --> 00:11:42.596 We have been over since the day my girlfriend came to visit. 00:11:43.836 --> 00:11:47.676 Maybe you yourself don't care about the relationship between you and me. 00:11:48.616 --> 00:11:50.856 So she didn't let it develop further. 00:11:51.816 --> 00:11:54.776 As for me, I'm still young and have a lot of hope ahead. 00:11:56.316 --> 00:12:00.976 I know you are divorced and I know your husband has his own family in the South. 00:12:02.116 --> 00:12:04.676 I also thought I would comfort her. 00:12:05.496 --> 00:12:06.976 But she is stronger than I thought. 00:12:07.576 --> 00:12:12.554 Or maybe, she didn't love her husband enough to feel lost like the way 00:12:12.554 --> 00:12:13.976 she came to me. 00:12:16.051 --> 00:12:19.511 we need each other at some point 00:12:19.911 --> 00:12:23.826 and so we put aside all the things that need to be thought about deeply 00:12:23.826 --> 00:12:25.131 and carefully before moving forward. 00:12:26.851 --> 00:12:32.151 But come to think of it, don't we all grow from our mistakes? 00:12:33.211 --> 00:12:36.431 Lessons from failure and mistakes are always valuable. 00:12:39.929 --> 00:12:43.043 After a while, she came to say hello to me and said she would transfer 00:12:43.043 --> 00:12:44.289 her job to the Central region. 00:12:45.169 --> 00:12:48.129 She has relatives there, also to change the environment. 00:12:49.669 --> 00:12:53.294 I said goodbye to her, with much regret in my heart, but I did 00:12:53.294 --> 00:12:54.589 not dare to promise anything. 00:12:55.569 --> 00:12:56.869 What promise? 00:12:58.529 --> 00:13:02.529 I turned around and saw my girlfriend helping me put my bike back in the shop. 00:13:03.469 --> 00:13:06.789 I realized how I needed to take care of this relationship. 00:13:06.789 --> 00:13:12.749 Because I also want everything around me to bloom and bear sweet fruit. 00:13:14.860 --> 00:13:18.211 Ladies and gentlemen, we have just finished listening to a marriage joke 00:13:18.211 --> 00:13:22.400 story with a very real confession from a female audience member sent to the program. 00:13:22.980 --> 00:13:27.100 As we said, this is a story of right and wrong, difficult to distinguish. 00:13:27.600 --> 00:13:31.695 Because from the beginning, her marriage lacked too many elements to be 00:13:31.695 --> 00:13:33.060 strong and long lasting. 00:13:33.880 --> 00:13:37.740 This is not someone's story, nor is it an isolated story. 00:13:38.500 --> 00:13:42.980 In fact, in recent years, the divorce rate of young couples in our country has increased. 00:13:42.980 --> 00:13:48.580 Impatience and lack of understanding turn marriage into an experience, 00:13:48.800 --> 00:13:53.450 Not a journey of love and sacred living committed to the highest level as many 00:13:53.450 --> 00:13:57.170 previous generations have thought and are thinking about as the purpose of 00:13:57.170 --> 00:13:58.720 living together with a partner. 00:13:59.660 --> 00:14:04.408 It is a sad reality, because divorce brings many consequences, not only to 00:14:04.408 --> 00:14:08.060 the couple but also to the children and both families. 00:14:08.200 --> 00:14:12.840 Then rebuilding life after divorce is also extremely difficult. 00:14:15.644 --> 00:14:20.414 Yes, through this story, our editorial board hopes that young couples should 00:14:20.414 --> 00:14:22.004 spend more time dating. 00:14:22.004 --> 00:14:26.324 and if possible, learn carefully about the other person's personality to make 00:14:26.324 --> 00:14:28.484 the right decision when getting married. 00:14:29.224 --> 00:14:34.784 Because marriage is not a joke, the more seriously and respectfully we cultivate that journey. 00:14:34.784 --> 00:14:38.424 then on that journey there will be much sweet fruit. 00:14:39.843 --> 00:14:46.243 And now, the 9th hour program is over. Goodbye and see you again.