WEBVTT 00:00:12.755 --> 00:00:16.283 Ladies and gentlemen, the young couple in our story are 00:00:16.283 --> 00:00:17.695 very compatible in character. 00:00:18.121 --> 00:00:20.781 Extroverted wife, introverted husband. 00:00:21.521 --> 00:00:24.061 Will this conflict be resolved when we have children? 00:00:24.761 --> 00:00:27.381 Please continue to follow our story below. 00:00:36.970 --> 00:00:40.032 I was shocked when I learned that Mai decided to have an abortion and she 00:00:40.032 --> 00:00:43.093 asked me to go with her because she was afraid that something might happen if 00:00:43.093 --> 00:00:44.930 she went alone and didn't know who to ask. 00:00:46.050 --> 00:00:50.190 I can't imagine the reason Mai gave was that she was about to be promoted first. 00:00:51.130 --> 00:00:53.590 This is the opportunity she has been waiting for for 5 years. 00:00:54.050 --> 00:00:57.470 If she is pregnant, it means the opportunity will be given to the opponent. 00:00:58.410 --> 00:01:02.136 Mai also said, giving birth is always possible, but career opportunities are 00:01:02.136 --> 00:01:05.550 not always available, you have to know how to seize them. 00:01:06.970 --> 00:01:10.799 No matter how much I advised her, it was useless. Mai also told me to keep it 00:01:10.799 --> 00:01:12.150 a secret and not tell anyone. 00:01:12.830 --> 00:01:16.930 She will claim to have a scratch and no one will know about it. 00:01:17.870 --> 00:01:22.110 Even though I strongly disagreed with Mai's decision, I couldn't stop her. 00:01:22.870 --> 00:01:27.542 But because I promised you, I didn't dare tell anyone, just went with you to 00:01:27.542 --> 00:01:29.410 a private hospital to handle it. 00:01:30.770 --> 00:01:35.318 It was unexpected because the doctor who handled the case was a friend from our 00:01:35.318 --> 00:01:36.530 volunteer trip years ago. 00:01:36.970 --> 00:01:40.730 He went to the same school as Mai's husband, then they went their separate ways. 00:01:41.570 --> 00:01:44.950 Through the conversation, I learned that the doctor was not very close to Mai's husband. 00:01:45.790 --> 00:01:49.350 I told her about her husband's relationship with the doctor. 00:01:50.210 --> 00:01:53.930 Mai hesitated for a moment, then said something to the doctor, but 00:01:53.930 --> 00:01:55.170 I couldn't hear clearly. 00:01:57.397 --> 00:02:02.114 All my hopes were dashed when I learned that Mai had chosen to give up her child 00:02:02.114 --> 00:02:04.057 to gain a position in her career. 00:02:05.177 --> 00:02:07.597 She didn't even bother to consider my feelings and hopes. 00:02:08.357 --> 00:02:10.897 She cares about nothing but herself. 00:02:12.257 --> 00:02:16.172 The last drop of water overflowed the cup, ignoring her crying and begging, 00:02:16.172 --> 00:02:17.377 my heart turned cold. 00:02:18.117 --> 00:02:22.348 The pre-signed divorce papers were the end of an empty 8-month marriage filled 00:02:22.348 --> 00:02:25.277 with all kinds of joys, anger, love and hate. 00:02:25.277 --> 00:02:30.057 Looking back on this journey, I also feel guilty. 00:02:30.917 --> 00:02:33.277 But analysis is useless. 00:02:34.117 --> 00:02:35.557 Leave everything behind. 00:02:36.397 --> 00:02:39.117 I can no longer continue to accompany this woman. 00:02:40.457 --> 00:02:44.177 Three days after I gave her the application, she moved her things back 00:02:44.177 --> 00:02:47.897 to her mother's house and texted me that she had filed the application. 00:02:50.283 --> 00:02:52.323 My mood is empty and cold 00:02:53.103 --> 00:02:54.883 Everything is like a nightmare 00:02:55.403 --> 00:02:56.423 I don't understand why 00:02:56.683 --> 00:02:58.223 But a slow guy like me 00:02:58.723 --> 00:03:00.783 How can there be such hasty decisions? 00:03:01.043 --> 00:03:02.063 So thoughtless 00:03:03.843 --> 00:03:04.883 The following days 00:03:05.383 --> 00:03:07.443 I am like many other failed marriage men. 00:03:07.943 --> 00:03:09.223 Borrowing wine to ease sadness 00:03:09.743 --> 00:03:12.303 And need someone to listen and understand 00:03:19.274 --> 00:03:24.283 I was now both a healing expert and a trash can for the couple 00:03:24.283 --> 00:03:25.714 to expose each other. 00:03:26.814 --> 00:03:31.549 As for Mai, she still insists that she is not at fault for choosing to 00:03:31.549 --> 00:03:34.074 sacrifice her children to strive for her career. 00:03:34.494 --> 00:03:40.275 She still thought she was young, getting pregnant at this time was an unexpected 00:03:40.275 --> 00:03:41.514 surprise to her. 00:03:42.574 --> 00:03:46.774 Instead of blaming, we should understand and sympathize. 00:03:46.774 --> 00:03:51.261 Mai is used to being pampered by her family and those around her, so she 00:03:51.261 --> 00:03:53.654 often acts like she's the most important person. 00:03:54.574 --> 00:04:00.212 Even though I can be lenient with my friend in many things, this time I still 00:04:00.212 --> 00:04:01.974 cannot sympathize with Mai's actions. 00:04:02.554 --> 00:04:08.534 With you, I sympathize more, because after all you are not too young anymore. 00:04:09.234 --> 00:04:12.304 He himself understands that this marriage will easily fall apart if it 00:04:12.304 --> 00:04:14.094 does not develop to a new level. 00:04:15.054 --> 00:04:16.754 Finally, Mai moved herself. 00:04:19.534 --> 00:04:22.694 Mai asked me about this decision, I just said 00:04:22.694 --> 00:04:27.114 From the beginning, he and I were not compatible. 00:04:28.434 --> 00:04:33.154 Mai nodded as if to gain courage, she signed the form with an annoyed look. 00:04:34.094 --> 00:04:36.974 Life is long, men are still plentiful, what to worry about? 00:04:38.694 --> 00:04:42.154 The marriage with so much hope went up in smoke like that. 00:04:45.168 --> 00:04:48.388 The court's decision ended an eight-month journey. 00:04:49.348 --> 00:04:50.868 Mai and I became strangers. 00:04:51.728 --> 00:04:52.868 We have nothing to share. 00:04:53.988 --> 00:04:56.228 All assets before marriage are mine. 00:04:57.168 --> 00:04:58.468 Mai also showed no need. 00:04:59.168 --> 00:05:02.348 Because she is also an only child, her family lacks nothing. 00:05:03.288 --> 00:05:07.968 Perhaps what she lacks is a generous and understanding heart. 00:05:08.768 --> 00:05:11.688 She needs more life experiences to mature in her actions. 00:05:11.688 --> 00:05:15.088 Looking at Mai, I think of Hue again. 00:05:15.868 --> 00:05:19.708 The girl I once had a crush on is still by my side. 00:05:20.568 --> 00:05:22.668 Quiet and peaceful as before. 00:05:24.108 --> 00:05:26.128 She rarely speaks, just listens. 00:05:26.868 --> 00:05:29.188 Even the way she shares, she is careful. 00:05:29.728 --> 00:05:33.428 Perhaps this makes Hue considered unapproachable and cold. 00:05:34.368 --> 00:05:35.508 But only I know. 00:05:36.448 --> 00:05:40.258 Whenever I'm with Hue, her gentleness and thoughtfulness make 00:05:40.258 --> 00:05:41.528 me feel included. 00:05:41.888 --> 00:05:43.788 Be comforted, be consoled. 00:05:44.548 --> 00:05:47.688 I also don't wear any mask to share with her. 00:05:48.608 --> 00:05:51.068 Both always agree on many issues in life. 00:05:52.588 --> 00:05:55.108 There is another thing in Hue that I find precious. 00:05:55.788 --> 00:05:59.008 She is the one who always nurtures my marriage with Mai. 00:06:00.028 --> 00:06:03.748 She always finds the good point to speak up for Mai in the most sincere way. 00:06:04.868 --> 00:06:08.599 Honestly, if it weren't for Hue's mediation, my husband and I would have 00:06:08.599 --> 00:06:10.608 been broken up a long time ago. 00:06:13.964 --> 00:06:16.664 Mai recovered from her divorce faster than I thought. 00:06:17.784 --> 00:06:22.664 She has a wide circle of friends, so the people around her always make her happy. 00:06:22.664 --> 00:06:26.564 and busy with traveling, going to bars, going to coffee shops. 00:06:27.244 --> 00:06:31.504 Only when she really needs a place to vent does she come to me. 00:06:32.084 --> 00:06:35.324 I don't feel sad about this either. 00:06:35.944 --> 00:06:39.724 because I was withdrawn and had a hard time fitting in with her group of friends. 00:06:39.724 --> 00:06:44.804 On the contrary, Mai's ex-husband became more and more pensive. 00:06:45.604 --> 00:06:47.824 Sometimes he texted me to invite me out for tea. 00:06:48.724 --> 00:06:52.004 When we got there, I was the one who spoke, not him. 00:06:53.024 --> 00:06:54.664 We both have a lot in common, 00:06:55.344 --> 00:07:00.224 So he told me that he felt very peaceful when he was with me. 00:07:01.224 --> 00:07:05.324 You can be yourself, you don't have to change anything to fit in with me. 00:07:05.924 --> 00:07:08.804 And I think I probably do too. 00:07:09.724 --> 00:07:14.584 His hidden words made a perceptive and sensitive person like me understand that 00:07:15.104 --> 00:07:17.664 He is gradually expressing his feelings for me. 00:07:18.684 --> 00:07:22.004 But that feeling to say out loud is too difficult, 00:07:22.524 --> 00:07:25.604 because our relationship is too full of contradictions. 00:07:26.510 --> 00:07:30.070 Yes, I increasingly realize my feelings for Hue. 00:07:31.030 --> 00:07:35.816 Since meeting her again, to be honest, I have been a bit nostalgic for the good 00:07:35.816 --> 00:07:37.910 memories of the volunteer trip years ago. 00:07:38.750 --> 00:07:44.604 Not only that, the more I get to know her, the more I feel that Hue is the 00:07:44.604 --> 00:07:46.230 other half I'm looking for. 00:07:47.310 --> 00:07:50.370 Everything about you makes me feel safe and comfortable. 00:07:50.370 --> 00:07:55.558 But, the harmony in thinking and personality like two close friends, her 00:07:55.558 --> 00:07:59.450 gentleness and sincerity make me compare her with Mai. 00:08:00.530 --> 00:08:04.390 Many times I have weighed two women in my mind. 00:08:05.430 --> 00:08:07.030 I understand why they are close. 00:08:08.030 --> 00:08:11.770 Like me, Mai is a colorful and vibrant world. 00:08:12.670 --> 00:08:17.070 Hue and I are the world of calm lakes, deep mountains and forests. 00:08:18.250 --> 00:08:20.290 But, dating. 00:08:20.370 --> 00:08:23.370 It's one thing, marriage is another. 00:08:24.130 --> 00:08:28.730 Because I didn't have much experience in love, I easily nodded without thinking. 00:08:28.730 --> 00:08:34.479 that to choose a life together, people need more harmony of mind and 00:08:34.479 --> 00:08:36.690 personality than opposition and compensation. 00:08:38.050 --> 00:08:41.130 This is only when I stumble, I realize. 00:08:43.797 --> 00:08:49.270 After 3 months of divorce, Mai has a new boyfriend, a young and open-minded 00:08:49.270 --> 00:08:52.397 architect, whose personality is quite compatible with hers. 00:08:53.137 --> 00:08:58.356 As usual, Mai was gushing to me about how she had been healed by her new 00:08:58.356 --> 00:09:03.249 lover, how she had made a mistake by rushing into marriage too soon, and how 00:09:03.249 --> 00:09:06.837 I had to be careful in choosing the man to marry. 00:09:07.737 --> 00:09:11.837 Even though Mai has known me for so many years, I have never entered an official relationship. 00:09:11.837 --> 00:09:19.441 Now, his daily concern makes me feel moved, but I also have to learn how to 00:09:19.441 --> 00:09:21.817 suppress and control my feelings. 00:09:22.677 --> 00:09:25.537 Because after all, he was once his best friend's husband. 00:09:26.397 --> 00:09:31.830 Theoretically, there is nothing wrong with us getting together, but morally, 00:09:31.830 --> 00:09:37.757 we will be criticized, and I may even lose my best friend. 00:09:37.957 --> 00:09:41.597 If she doesn't understand that her separation from her ex-husband, 00:09:41.837 --> 00:09:43.637 it has nothing to do with me 00:09:44.657 --> 00:09:49.750 Thinking back and forth, I still chose to remain silent and asked him 00:09:49.750 --> 00:09:51.317 for time to think. 00:09:51.817 --> 00:09:56.894 He said he was in no hurry, he just wanted to express so I could understand, 00:09:56.894 --> 00:09:58.797 because he was stuck like me. 00:10:01.388 --> 00:10:07.450 Like Hue, we both had feelings for each other, but were still shy about 00:10:07.450 --> 00:10:08.748 this personal incident. 00:10:09.888 --> 00:10:13.888 Actually I don't feel that there is any problem, but I feel sorry for Hue. 00:10:15.008 --> 00:10:19.508 If we come out together, you will be the one who suffers the most. 00:10:20.568 --> 00:10:26.048 Especially from Mai's side, she is selfish, she might hurt Hue. 00:10:26.608 --> 00:10:29.620 And between friendship and love, a person like Hue would not 00:10:29.620 --> 00:10:30.988 dare to give up friendship. 00:10:31.388 --> 00:10:38.708 To get my happiness, I think I need to do something for my happiness. 00:10:41.365 --> 00:10:46.079 It was a surprise when my ex-husband asked me out for coffee almost a 00:10:46.079 --> 00:10:47.425 year after our divorce. 00:10:48.305 --> 00:10:52.145 My heart is healed and life is back to normal. 00:10:52.885 --> 00:10:59.285 I had it all, a great career, a great boyfriend, and everything was better than before. 00:10:59.765 --> 00:11:03.824 Maybe that's why I don't hate my ex-husband, it's just that there's no 00:11:03.824 --> 00:11:05.385 reason to see him again. 00:11:06.025 --> 00:11:10.445 But now he suddenly took the initiative to ask me out, so I was a bit curious. 00:11:10.445 --> 00:11:15.965 I decided to meet him to see what he wanted to say and talk to me about. 00:11:20.476 --> 00:11:21.676 I figured this out too. 00:11:22.716 --> 00:11:26.833 I said, avoiding the question that I have loved Hue unrequitedly since I 00:11:26.833 --> 00:11:28.416 broke up with my wife. 00:11:29.376 --> 00:11:33.096 I feel unbalanced and want to find support, want to have peaceful 00:11:33.096 --> 00:11:34.336 happiness in the future. 00:11:35.336 --> 00:11:41.216 I want to get to know Hue, but since it's my ex-wife, I'll ask her opinion. 00:11:42.356 --> 00:11:45.136 This does not depend on whether Mai agrees or not, 00:11:45.136 --> 00:11:50.596 but just to let Mai know that I will act like that because I want to. 00:11:51.396 --> 00:11:55.536 I don't know if Hue agrees or not, but I hope to receive Mai's blessing. 00:11:55.536 --> 00:12:00.296 and encourage Hue so that Hue can remove the psychological barrier to come to me. 00:12:02.096 --> 00:12:04.576 Mai seemed to not believe that I would be able to flirt with Hue. 00:12:05.656 --> 00:12:08.916 However, it seems that she is not too petty, 00:12:09.556 --> 00:12:12.136 so she said it was my freedom. 00:12:12.696 --> 00:12:15.136 She also needs time to accept this. 00:12:16.036 --> 00:12:20.276 And if Hue and I feel like we want to be together, then she has no right. 00:12:21.636 --> 00:12:25.076 I'm glad Mai finally understands a little. 00:12:28.083 --> 00:12:33.110 Unexpectedly, Mai was the one who took the initiative to ask me if her 00:12:33.110 --> 00:12:35.983 ex-husband flirted with me, would I accept it? 00:12:37.363 --> 00:12:41.380 Without waiting for me to answer, Mai said that basically her ex-husband was a 00:12:41.380 --> 00:12:44.823 good person, it was just that she and he were not compatible. 00:12:45.243 --> 00:12:50.663 Besides, Mai now has new happiness, so she also wants her ex to be happy. 00:12:51.543 --> 00:12:56.131 If he chooses me, she will be very reassured, because she thinks we 00:12:56.131 --> 00:12:57.543 are both her relatives. 00:12:58.403 --> 00:13:01.723 It's just whether I accept it or not. 00:13:02.723 --> 00:13:08.503 This surprised me a lot about Mai, I didn't expect her to think so clearly. 00:13:09.043 --> 00:13:13.721 Yet for nearly a year now, I have been worried about that and have not dared 00:13:13.721 --> 00:13:15.183 to share it with you. 00:13:16.163 --> 00:13:22.179 I remained silent as is my nature, but in my heart I silently thanked Mai for 00:13:22.179 --> 00:13:23.683 really thinking of us. 00:13:24.483 --> 00:13:28.063 Because after all, everyone seeks happiness and worthiness. 00:13:28.083 --> 00:13:32.783 Deserving happiness means that happiness does not hurt others. 00:13:37.135 --> 00:13:41.055 Ladies and gentlemen, a happy ending to the twists and turns of three people's journey. 00:13:41.975 --> 00:13:45.855 We, the listeners of this story, were also confused at first. 00:13:45.855 --> 00:13:50.415 like two introverted characters because of prejudices and everyday ethics 00:13:50.415 --> 00:13:52.535 when your best friend marries your ex 00:13:53.675 --> 00:13:56.875 However, the ex-wife's sympathy and positive thinking 00:13:56.875 --> 00:14:00.955 broke the ice on the entire impasse in the journey to find new happiness between the two. 00:14:02.035 --> 00:14:06.255 I wish in this world, everyone treats each other with tolerance and forgiveness. 00:14:06.255 --> 00:14:09.195 Because life would be so good. 00:14:09.855 --> 00:14:11.015 Is that right, Ms. Minh Hoang? 00:14:11.476 --> 00:14:14.516 Yes, I completely agree with your point of view. 00:14:15.236 --> 00:14:18.116 Everyone has the right to love and the right to pursue happiness. 00:14:18.656 --> 00:14:22.316 The 9th Hour Editorial Board always hopes that the viewers who are watching the program 00:14:22.316 --> 00:14:25.096 always find peace in every moment. 00:14:26.275 --> 00:14:28.995 And here, this week's story comes to a close. 00:14:29.775 --> 00:14:33.715 Thank you for your attention and goodbye.