WEBVTT 00:00:12.518 --> 00:00:15.798 Welcome back to the 9th hour. 00:00:18.087 --> 00:00:22.327 What kind of story will we bring to our audience today, Mr. Phu Thang? 00:00:22.762 --> 00:00:26.362 Yes, that is the confession of a female audience member who is standing in the 00:00:26.362 --> 00:00:28.042 middle of the village of choosing happiness. 00:00:28.822 --> 00:00:32.136 Her journey to find happiness is also very difficult and how 00:00:32.136 --> 00:00:33.342 does this story develop? 00:00:33.962 --> 00:00:38.082 How will the people involved behave with each other to overcome these difficult exits? 00:00:38.862 --> 00:00:40.722 Please listen to the story. 00:00:41.602 --> 00:00:44.842 Should I approach my ex husband now? 00:00:54.115 --> 00:00:59.275 Many people, after hearing my story, easily react. 00:01:00.335 --> 00:01:03.364 There are plenty of men in the world, why do you have to marry your 00:01:03.364 --> 00:01:04.575 best friend's ex-husband? Are you crazy? 00:01:05.915 --> 00:01:10.924 I know, I'm not crazy. It's just that my heart was given to him, 00:01:10.924 --> 00:01:12.355 my best friend's ex-husband. 00:01:13.155 --> 00:01:16.855 It's a complicated story between me, Mai and him. 00:01:17.575 --> 00:01:20.395 Mai and he are a pair of opposite poles magnets. 00:01:21.055 --> 00:01:23.975 Their love story from the beginning to the end. 00:01:24.255 --> 00:01:28.355 I witnessed it all, and I even contributed to their breakup. 00:01:29.335 --> 00:01:31.435 Hearing this, there will surely be people who will despise it. 00:01:32.055 --> 00:01:35.815 But please listen to this whole love story. 00:01:36.215 --> 00:01:40.935 Let's see in this story, is it reason or emotion that I should listen to? 00:01:41.335 --> 00:01:45.955 Because I've been lying to myself for months now, there's no satisfactory answer. 00:01:47.390 --> 00:01:50.970 I met Mai at an event where both companies were collaborating. 00:01:51.930 --> 00:01:55.450 At that time Mai was 25 years old, full of life and beautiful. 00:01:56.410 --> 00:02:00.470 I, a guy just 30 but always feel like I'm about to enter middle age. 00:02:01.310 --> 00:02:05.045 My quiet and introverted appearance and the work I do make me look like an 00:02:05.045 --> 00:02:06.290 old man all the time. 00:02:07.270 --> 00:02:10.595 Mai, who was then a human resources officer from a partner, invited me to be 00:02:10.595 --> 00:02:12.590 an expert for a forum organized by her company. 00:02:13.670 --> 00:02:16.470 The first time we met, I was like a dry tree meeting water. 00:02:16.470 --> 00:02:19.870 Mai's playful freshness moved me. 00:02:20.810 --> 00:02:24.070 I also do not know at that time if you had sympathy for me or not. 00:02:24.730 --> 00:02:28.410 I just see you smiling, shaking your head and calling me "old man". 00:02:29.270 --> 00:02:33.148 A very intimate and also very strange way of calling because few people can 00:02:33.148 --> 00:02:34.810 joke naturally with me like that. 00:02:36.210 --> 00:02:38.830 As I said, I come across as a bit unapproachable. 00:02:39.770 --> 00:02:42.910 Tomorrow, everything around me seems to be energized. 00:02:43.170 --> 00:02:46.450 I was drawn to the youthful energy that Mai radiated. 00:02:47.448 --> 00:02:52.786 I am Mai, we are all lonely people because we are picky or because we are 00:02:52.786 --> 00:02:54.788 picky we are happy with loneliness. 00:02:55.568 --> 00:03:01.868 One introvert, one extrovert, I don't know what fate brought us together. 00:03:02.508 --> 00:03:08.488 The first time I met him, I was attracted by his calmness and sharp expertise. 00:03:09.228 --> 00:03:13.817 From his trustworthy appearance to his deep voice, he was like a magnetic male 00:03:13.817 --> 00:03:15.128 magnet that attracted me. 00:03:15.128 --> 00:03:18.288 I am a mischievous, outgoing and bubbly girl. 00:03:19.388 --> 00:03:22.428 After that event, I was determined to win him over. 00:03:23.348 --> 00:03:27.188 Actually, conquering a man is not a difficult thing for me. 00:03:27.888 --> 00:03:33.063 I know my strengths, not only my youth, I have a bright appearance and a 00:03:33.063 --> 00:03:37.548 positive personality, my job is also okay, so there is nothing to discuss. 00:03:38.168 --> 00:03:42.201 In my neighborhood, I am still considered a future daughter-in-law by 00:03:42.201 --> 00:03:44.768 the ladies because of the above strengths. 00:03:45.128 --> 00:03:50.568 So it was no surprise that within a month, we were officially dating. 00:03:51.691 --> 00:03:56.168 Winning without fighting, naturally having a lover, and a lover who is 00:03:56.168 --> 00:03:59.899 beautiful, obedient, cute, young, like a stream of water to 00:03:59.899 --> 00:04:01.391 cool my peaceful soul. 00:04:02.171 --> 00:04:05.402 Honestly, after breaking up with my first love, I devoted all 00:04:05.402 --> 00:04:06.871 my attention to my career. 00:04:07.491 --> 00:04:09.851 At work, there are also people who notice. 00:04:10.731 --> 00:04:15.660 I know, but I'm an introvert by nature, and I don't feel really attracted, so 00:04:15.660 --> 00:04:17.631 I'm still alone day and night. 00:04:17.631 --> 00:04:21.281 If Mai hadn't taken the initiative, I would probably have just stopped at the 00:04:21.281 --> 00:04:25.191 level of more than friendship, less than love, and wouldn't have dared to go further. 00:04:26.451 --> 00:04:29.211 Mai is completely opposite to me in personality and habits. 00:04:30.151 --> 00:04:31.971 Mai is extroverted, I am introverted. 00:04:32.651 --> 00:04:36.751 Mai spoke her mind, I chose to keep it a secret and adjust accordingly. 00:04:37.651 --> 00:04:41.446 Mai likes to go out to avoid crowds, but I just want her to come 00:04:41.446 --> 00:04:42.711 home and have time together. 00:04:44.011 --> 00:04:47.511 The first month of dating, despite seeing many contrasts, 00:04:47.631 --> 00:04:53.814 But the intoxication of love and many work topics made us ignore the signs and 00:04:53.814 --> 00:04:55.051 get drunk together. 00:04:56.221 --> 00:04:59.521 It's time I introduced you to my best friend, Hue. 00:05:00.281 --> 00:05:02.521 When I told her about him, Hue was quite surprised. 00:05:03.141 --> 00:05:06.101 They went to college together and have been working together for nearly ten years. 00:05:06.761 --> 00:05:09.961 Hue knows everything about my date with my ex. 00:05:10.721 --> 00:05:14.301 Hue was quite surprised by this love affair, it took her a month to know. 00:05:15.081 --> 00:05:17.821 I smiled awkwardly and said I wanted to be sure of my feelings. 00:05:17.821 --> 00:05:21.981 and wanted to confirm that this was the person I would marry, so I wanted to surprise Hue. 00:05:22.581 --> 00:05:24.621 It turned out that the surprised person was me. 00:05:24.621 --> 00:05:27.981 Today, Hue also knew him a long time ago. 00:05:28.461 --> 00:05:30.621 through a charity event nearly ten years ago. 00:05:31.241 --> 00:05:34.921 It turns out, we were destined to meet. 00:05:35.661 --> 00:05:39.641 The intimate meal between the three people became joyful, without any awkwardness. 00:05:40.121 --> 00:05:44.181 Sometimes I even find myself out of the conversation. 00:05:44.181 --> 00:05:47.341 Because in their memories, I was not there. 00:05:49.073 --> 00:05:51.653 Life is full of surprises, and so is fate. 00:05:52.413 --> 00:05:55.853 Just like Hue said that day, if we are destined to meet again. 00:05:56.953 --> 00:06:01.244 Nearly ten years ago, Hue and I joined a volunteer group to go to the highlands 00:06:01.244 --> 00:06:02.853 to support people after flash floods. 00:06:03.773 --> 00:06:07.630 On that trip, I was deeply impressed with Hue, a first-year student, quiet 00:06:07.630 --> 00:06:09.113 but full of hidden kindness. 00:06:10.213 --> 00:06:13.778 At that time, I was carrying a heavy and slippery wooden stick, accidentally 00:06:13.778 --> 00:06:16.793 slipped and stepped on a sharp rock, and blood flowed profusely. 00:06:16.793 --> 00:06:21.223 Hue was standing nearby and saw me in trouble. She quickly got the first aid 00:06:21.223 --> 00:06:25.653 kit and performed first aid very professionally, making me think she was a volunteer nurse. 00:06:26.853 --> 00:06:30.737 Later I found out that because her parents were both in the medical field, 00:06:30.737 --> 00:06:33.233 she learned first aid skills from a young age. 00:06:34.313 --> 00:06:36.353 Hue is quiet, and so am I. 00:06:37.233 --> 00:06:41.962 But I don't know if we have a spiritual connection or not, but whenever I want 00:06:41.962 --> 00:06:45.213 to do something, I see Hue doing it, and vice versa. 00:06:45.213 --> 00:06:51.073 The whole group kept teasing us, saying we were a sober couple. 00:06:52.233 --> 00:06:55.633 But my sympathy for Hue only goes to that extent. 00:06:56.753 --> 00:07:00.753 After returning to Hanoi, we lost contact with each other for many reasons. 00:07:01.473 --> 00:07:04.453 Because at that time, I was in a relationship. 00:07:07.137 --> 00:07:12.221 I never expected to meet him again, the man who made me a little excited 00:07:12.221 --> 00:07:13.577 nearly ten years ago. 00:07:14.617 --> 00:07:20.516 Now he is my best friend's boyfriend, and as Mai shared, maybe they 00:07:20.516 --> 00:07:21.877 will get married. 00:07:22.597 --> 00:07:28.531 That year, because I was too shy and afraid of being rejected, I hid my 00:07:28.531 --> 00:07:33.277 feelings for him, a young man full of enthusiasm, dedication and kindness. 00:07:33.277 --> 00:07:36.717 He is more action than talk, like me. 00:07:37.577 --> 00:07:42.869 We have a lot of non-verbal connections as we both dislike crowds, don't like to 00:07:42.869 --> 00:07:46.749 talk too much, enjoy listening to classical music and sitting quietly 00:07:46.749 --> 00:07:50.277 together, not needing to say anything but still feeling comfortable. 00:07:51.637 --> 00:07:55.137 A week of volunteering in the highlands and I felt like I had met him in another life. 00:07:56.137 --> 00:08:00.377 Yet that silent love is just a thread entangled in my heart. 00:08:00.977 --> 00:08:03.257 I thought I would never see you again. 00:08:03.997 --> 00:08:07.717 When they remembered him in this situation, they both looked at each 00:08:07.717 --> 00:08:08.957 other and laughed awkwardly. 00:08:09.797 --> 00:08:17.143 That same smile made me feel like he was as surprised to see his silent companion 00:08:17.143 --> 00:08:20.357 again as I was to see him. 00:08:22.653 --> 00:08:26.653 And so, Hue accompanied me in a surprising capacity. 00:08:27.573 --> 00:08:29.453 My best friend, my fiancee. 00:08:30.973 --> 00:08:33.233 Well, Hue is still single. 00:08:34.053 --> 00:08:37.373 She is a little more mature than before, but still as quiet as before. 00:08:38.453 --> 00:08:41.693 She's like a copy of me, the same in every way. 00:08:42.393 --> 00:08:48.774 But both Hue and I have to admit that she and I would forever be two boring 00:08:48.774 --> 00:08:52.153 people if we hadn't met Mai, my future wife. 00:08:52.653 --> 00:08:58.153 It seems that the gaps that I lack, are filled by Mai with her differences. 00:08:58.153 --> 00:09:04.049 That's why, even though some people are hesitant about my decision, I'm still 00:09:04.049 --> 00:09:10.853 sure that marrying Mai will make my life more colorful and I will be happier. 00:09:13.210 --> 00:09:17.490 So I got married after only 3 months of dating. 00:09:18.250 --> 00:09:21.750 Everyone said I decided to get married too quickly, afraid I didn't do enough research. 00:09:22.490 --> 00:09:25.150 But I also believe in my choice. 00:09:25.890 --> 00:09:28.670 Partly because I thought I was old enough to get married and have children. 00:09:29.310 --> 00:09:32.050 Partly because I felt he was very safe and kind. 00:09:32.790 --> 00:09:35.870 I'm tired of playboys who are good at pleasing women. 00:09:35.990 --> 00:09:38.050 But the heart has too many compartments. 00:09:38.790 --> 00:09:40.550 Time to find a place. 00:09:40.550 --> 00:09:44.870 We became husband and wife with the blessings of all our relatives. 00:09:45.670 --> 00:09:47.870 The person who caught my bouquet was also Hue. 00:09:48.530 --> 00:09:53.570 I secretly hope she finds the right partner, to have the happiness I have. 00:09:54.670 --> 00:09:58.550 That day Hue was quite thoughtful, but partly because I was too happy, partly 00:09:58.550 --> 00:10:00.490 because I knew my friend was reserved. 00:10:00.970 --> 00:10:05.211 I also deliberately aimed for her a table full of elite single men, so she 00:10:05.211 --> 00:10:07.190 would have the opportunity to get acquainted. 00:10:08.030 --> 00:10:10.490 But as usual, she just smiled. 00:10:10.550 --> 00:10:18.840 Perhaps Hue needs more time to find her destiny, or needs to change herself to 00:10:18.840 --> 00:10:21.050 attract the opposite sex. 00:10:21.550 --> 00:10:24.110 That's what I think for you. 00:10:25.469 --> 00:10:29.769 My wife and I would like to introduce Hue to a single, decent man. 00:10:30.829 --> 00:10:34.909 So after the wedding, we often invited Hue home for dinner on weekends. 00:10:34.909 --> 00:10:39.529 and invited a close friend of mine to dinner, get to know each other and chat. 00:10:40.489 --> 00:10:45.027 I don't know why, but even though I introduced three single, funny, 00:10:45.027 --> 00:10:48.809 stable-job, and decent-mannered guys to her, she still didn't budge. 00:10:50.049 --> 00:10:53.009 My friends all have a good feeling about Hue, but they all say, 00:10:53.009 --> 00:10:58.327 She is too introverted, you can't know what she thinks, she is too cold so you 00:10:58.327 --> 00:10:59.989 don't dare to approach her. 00:11:01.289 --> 00:11:05.409 Gradually, my wife and I both realized that we had been worrying too much. 00:11:06.009 --> 00:11:12.169 Anyway, Hue doesn't need us to matchmake her, she's fine with her single life. 00:11:13.429 --> 00:11:18.219 So from then on, my wife occasionally invited her over, and I absolutely did 00:11:18.219 --> 00:11:19.929 not talk about matchmaking anymore. 00:11:21.899 --> 00:11:29.239 I'm not a picky person, I know my men well, and who I'll put my head down on. 00:11:30.099 --> 00:11:33.612 I also understand my problem is that if that person does not take the 00:11:33.612 --> 00:11:35.619 initiative, I do not dare to move forward. 00:11:36.419 --> 00:11:40.749 So, after a few relationships that didn't go anywhere, because I tried to 00:11:40.749 --> 00:11:44.747 change myself to fit in with them, I realized that being myself 00:11:44.747 --> 00:11:46.079 is the best thing. 00:11:46.719 --> 00:11:49.499 If there is no suitable person, I do not want to look for it. 00:11:49.499 --> 00:11:52.299 But, who would be right for me? 00:11:53.479 --> 00:11:57.443 That was the boy on the volunteer trip that I had hidden in my 00:11:57.443 --> 00:11:58.859 heart for nearly ten years. 00:11:59.719 --> 00:12:03.839 No one knows this yet, not even Mai, my best friend. 00:12:04.779 --> 00:12:07.759 It was like that before, and it is even less like that now. 00:12:08.419 --> 00:12:13.119 Because the man in my heart is her current husband. 00:12:15.815 --> 00:12:18.775 After the honeymoon, we returned to our normal lives. 00:12:19.715 --> 00:12:22.575 Someone often said, after the honeymoon comes the gallbladder. 00:12:24.815 --> 00:12:27.155 I don't have a broken heart, I have a broken neck. 00:12:28.255 --> 00:12:31.195 All the doubts I had about Mai's character, 00:12:31.695 --> 00:12:34.795 Now it is really a problem that causes a big gap between us. 00:12:35.935 --> 00:12:37.575 Mai also gradually realized that. 00:12:38.255 --> 00:12:41.051 Instead of working together to change, Mai bluntly criticized me for being 00:12:41.051 --> 00:12:42.915 old-fashioned and not knowing how to enjoy life. 00:12:42.915 --> 00:12:47.735 For example, I only buy things that fit my needs and budget. 00:12:48.535 --> 00:12:52.234 But Mai always wanted luxury items and had to use a credit card to 00:12:52.234 --> 00:12:53.555 spend now and pay later. 00:12:54.795 --> 00:12:57.655 I want home cooked meals, but Mai likes to eat out. 00:12:58.455 --> 00:12:59.695 She can eat out all week. 00:13:00.615 --> 00:13:02.875 She hates cooking and housekeeping. 00:13:04.135 --> 00:13:09.035 Before, I did all those things because I was alone. 00:13:09.915 --> 00:13:12.875 My parents live separately, I like everything neat and tidy. 00:13:12.915 --> 00:13:17.135 She took my stuff and used it and threw it away without remembering. 00:13:18.155 --> 00:13:19.955 I like classical music, without lyrics. 00:13:20.615 --> 00:13:21.915 She watches tiktok all day. 00:13:23.115 --> 00:13:26.873 Things started to get tense when the two couldn't be in the same room 00:13:26.873 --> 00:13:28.215 to do the same activity. 00:13:29.845 --> 00:13:33.845 We've only been married for 5 months, but it feels like 5 years. 00:13:34.385 --> 00:13:38.785 I never thought a man before and after marriage could be so different. 00:13:39.525 --> 00:13:41.325 But it's not that my husband has changed. 00:13:42.045 --> 00:13:47.025 It's just that when we were dating and hadn't lived together yet, I idealized everything about him. 00:13:47.805 --> 00:13:51.405 Seeing that he also pampered me, I thought that when we lived together, I 00:13:51.405 --> 00:13:53.205 would be a queen in his eyes. 00:13:53.965 --> 00:13:57.487 I never thought that when we lived together, he would see me as a 00:13:57.487 --> 00:13:58.745 messy person full of stains. 00:13:58.745 --> 00:14:04.283 He doesn't talk much, but when he comments on me, it's like an expert 00:14:04.283 --> 00:14:05.865 evaluating a bad project. 00:14:06.565 --> 00:14:10.193 This makes me feel more and more annoyed, tired, arguing, and acting like 00:14:10.193 --> 00:14:12.425 I did when we first fell in love. 00:14:12.965 --> 00:14:17.045 But he was still cold and principled, forcing me to do as he said. 00:14:18.045 --> 00:14:20.605 I had no choice but to go complain to Hue. 00:14:21.205 --> 00:14:24.095 I also advise her not to be foolish enough to get married right after 00:14:24.095 --> 00:14:26.365 falling in love, or else regret it like I do now. 00:14:29.397 --> 00:14:32.217 Hue suddenly became the source of anger for my husband and I. 00:14:33.157 --> 00:14:35.977 What I couldn't tell my wife, I shared with Hue. 00:14:36.917 --> 00:14:41.792 Hue listened, understood and analyzed both their strengths and weaknesses in a 00:14:41.792 --> 00:14:43.417 reasonable and sympathetic way. 00:14:44.257 --> 00:14:48.177 She has my calmness, but the gentleness of a woman. 00:14:49.237 --> 00:14:51.657 This makes it very easy for the listener to absorb. 00:14:52.477 --> 00:14:56.323 Even though she was criticizing my husband and I for having too big an ego, 00:14:56.323 --> 00:14:58.117 refusing to change and understand each other. 00:14:59.397 --> 00:15:04.657 Seeing that her advice made sense, I tried to give in and give in to my wife. 00:15:05.517 --> 00:15:10.817 But I don't know if my wife is young and naive or just naturally reckless. 00:15:11.697 --> 00:15:15.397 She kept showing her dissatisfaction by invading my private space, 00:15:16.117 --> 00:15:19.797 my hobbies and everything i used to live before she came. 00:15:21.817 --> 00:15:25.177 Actually I can still accept those things. 00:15:25.797 --> 00:15:27.917 There is only one thing that makes me most dissatisfied, 00:15:27.917 --> 00:15:32.417 That is Mai showed that she did not like my parents, even though they lived 00:15:32.417 --> 00:15:33.917 separately and only visited occasionally. 00:15:33.917 --> 00:15:38.743 I also prepared the meal myself and I just needed her to stand next to me and 00:15:38.743 --> 00:15:41.297 pretend to help so my parents could rest assured. 00:15:41.297 --> 00:15:46.072 But she closed the door and left the two old people in the living room with her 00:15:46.072 --> 00:15:47.757 husband working hard in the kitchen. 00:15:50.093 --> 00:15:53.333 Reluctantly became the third person in Mai's couple's story. 00:15:54.133 --> 00:15:59.413 I understand why these two opposite magnets get bored so quickly. 00:16:00.153 --> 00:16:04.863 When the intoxication of love and the discovery of new things passes, 00:16:04.863 --> 00:16:06.433 reality will be reality. 00:16:07.353 --> 00:16:10.933 Mai and her husband are two people from two different worlds. 00:16:11.573 --> 00:16:16.893 They have built up a solid character, one might even say human nature. 00:16:16.893 --> 00:16:22.213 There is no motive big enough for both of them to change for each other. 00:16:22.213 --> 00:16:25.645 Because the love between the two people is really too hasty, 00:16:25.645 --> 00:16:26.893 passionate like a wave. 00:16:26.893 --> 00:16:31.493 But when the sea is calm, it reveals deep holes that cannot be filled. 00:16:31.493 --> 00:16:36.876 I tried to listen to both sides complain until a very big incident happened 00:16:36.876 --> 00:16:38.413 to both of them. 00:16:38.413 --> 00:16:43.613 And because of this, their fragile love was broken. 00:16:46.102 --> 00:16:48.482 How happy I was when I found out my wife was pregnant. 00:16:49.622 --> 00:16:52.042 At this age, I also hope to be ahead of my father. 00:16:52.742 --> 00:16:56.062 A new role might be to be the connection between me and Mai. 00:16:56.882 --> 00:17:01.242 Because after getting married, we felt that there were many places that were not suitable. 00:17:02.382 --> 00:17:06.257 Maybe a child would be the bond that would bring my husband and I 00:17:06.257 --> 00:17:07.642 together in another common interest. 00:17:08.662 --> 00:17:13.840 Since I found out my wife was pregnant, I've tried to learn to accept and ignore 00:17:13.840 --> 00:17:15.782 her daily bad habits like laziness. 00:17:16.142 --> 00:17:18.142 Clutter and overspending. 00:17:19.082 --> 00:17:23.422 As for my parents, I also encourage them to understand and sympathize with their daughter-in-law. 00:17:24.362 --> 00:17:25.662 Each generation has its own way of life. 00:17:26.442 --> 00:17:28.342 The important thing is that my wife lives with me. 00:17:28.902 --> 00:17:30.162 I feel comfortable is fine. 00:17:31.762 --> 00:17:33.382 My parents are the old type. 00:17:34.282 --> 00:17:37.022 However, it is not that grandparents are ignorant. 00:17:37.962 --> 00:17:41.382 Although I really don't like my daughter-in-law's attitude every time her parents-in-law come to visit. 00:17:42.122 --> 00:17:45.942 But when they heard the news that they were going to have a grandchild, my parents were busy shopping. 00:17:46.102 --> 00:17:49.462 Crib, shelf, clothes and baby supplies. 00:17:50.082 --> 00:17:52.742 Joyfully ignore all the shortcomings of the daughter-in-law. 00:17:54.222 --> 00:17:57.962 However, short-lived joy does not cleanse the liver. 00:17:59.862 --> 00:18:04.445 Ladies and gentlemen, the couple in our story lived happily for a short time 00:18:04.445 --> 00:18:06.082 when they first got married. 00:18:06.622 --> 00:18:10.882 But soon after that, the conflict was revealed, the husband was introverted, the wife was extroverted. 00:18:11.382 --> 00:18:13.502 They have different signs so conflicts always arise. 00:18:14.242 --> 00:18:17.782 Will this couple change their way of life when they find out they are having a child? 00:18:18.362 --> 00:18:22.872 Please continue to follow our story broadcast this Sunday on Lao 00:18:22.872 --> 00:18:24.102 Dong TV channel.