WEBVTT 00:00:12.063 --> 00:00:15.243 Welcome back to the 9th hour. 00:00:18.222 --> 00:00:22.596 Ladies and gentlemen, love and marriage are always two topics that most of 00:00:22.596 --> 00:00:23.942 us are interested in. 00:00:23.942 --> 00:00:26.642 because everyone can find themselves in it. 00:00:27.442 --> 00:00:31.642 Today, the editorial board will send a share from a female reader from a far 00:00:31.642 --> 00:00:33.042 away part of the country. 00:00:33.722 --> 00:00:37.642 Her story received much sympathy from the editors who received her letters. 00:00:37.922 --> 00:00:42.142 and we decided to share her story as a gift of healing. 00:00:42.142 --> 00:00:45.762 for those who are having difficulties in marriage or in life. 00:00:47.585 --> 00:00:52.994 How will the story of a woman who has gone through two marriages and has two 00:00:52.994 --> 00:00:54.685 children end with a bachelor? 00:00:55.805 --> 00:00:57.965 What did they have to go through to be together? 00:00:58.825 --> 00:01:00.245 Please listen to the story. 00:01:00.245 --> 00:01:04.265 The bachelor married the girl twice. 00:01:13.606 --> 00:01:19.158 Divorce in this day and age is no longer as strange and stigmatized as it was 00:01:19.158 --> 00:01:20.546 in my parents' time. 00:01:21.446 --> 00:01:24.686 However, a woman who has been married twice is different. 00:01:25.466 --> 00:01:30.635 I am only 38 years old, have been through two marriages, two children 00:01:30.635 --> 00:01:32.226 with two different husbands. 00:01:32.806 --> 00:01:37.446 This, if left to public opinion, then either I have the fate of killing my husband, 00:01:37.946 --> 00:01:43.166 Second, I am a worthless woman, having been married twice and still not content. 00:01:44.146 --> 00:01:47.813 My first husband unfortunately passed away in a traffic accident when my child 00:01:47.813 --> 00:01:49.506 was just over a year old. 00:01:50.406 --> 00:01:54.056 That year I was only 25 years old, suddenly became a widow, suddenly had 00:01:54.056 --> 00:01:57.706 the reputation of killing her husband just because of a knock on the cheek. 00:01:58.506 --> 00:02:02.926 At 30 I remarried, this marriage brought me too many tears. 00:02:03.706 --> 00:02:06.526 When the second child was 5 years old, I decided to divorce. 00:02:07.306 --> 00:02:12.566 Empty hands, again with two young children, and a broken heart. 00:02:13.606 --> 00:02:17.966 I started over with a blank slate and hatred for men. 00:02:20.684 --> 00:02:24.264 Just like you, I came out of a relationship full of lies. 00:02:25.624 --> 00:02:28.824 After 8 years together, I have talked about marriage many times, 00:02:29.584 --> 00:02:32.324 also prepared enough house and some money saved 00:02:32.324 --> 00:02:37.144 wholeheartedly devoted to the lover I consider my fiancée. 00:02:38.384 --> 00:02:41.004 Suddenly, she said she was pregnant. 00:02:42.024 --> 00:02:45.564 Before I could rejoice, she tried to give me a fatal blow. 00:02:46.724 --> 00:02:48.444 She is pregnant with my best friend. 00:02:48.444 --> 00:02:51.524 This news made my legs weak. 00:02:52.564 --> 00:02:55.844 I just wanted to strangle her for a moment. 00:02:56.864 --> 00:02:59.364 But the pain of being betrayed by two loved ones, 00:02:59.904 --> 00:03:02.044 it hurts so much i don't want to do anything 00:03:03.044 --> 00:03:05.864 All I can say is a hesitant sentence. 00:03:09.804 --> 00:03:11.784 So ends a journey full of lies. 00:03:12.744 --> 00:03:16.264 I don't even know when they were together, when they fell in love. 00:03:16.464 --> 00:03:18.424 and dare to deceive me at any time. 00:03:18.964 --> 00:03:23.564 I sold the house I had prepared to get married and pay off the bank debt. 00:03:23.824 --> 00:03:27.404 Then the suitcase book left this land of suffering. 00:03:28.684 --> 00:03:34.224 And I met you, the woman, with two husbands. 00:03:35.913 --> 00:03:39.093 He is one year older than me, but he looks very young. 00:03:39.993 --> 00:03:43.073 At first, not knowing his age, I naturally addressed him. 00:03:43.953 --> 00:03:47.993 Maybe because he saw me with two children and an old appearance, 00:03:48.493 --> 00:03:50.053 so he also called me tri. 00:03:51.093 --> 00:03:53.473 He is the owner of the warehouse that I often buy slag from. 00:03:54.393 --> 00:03:58.253 A few years ago, when I came to this land, I was also unfamiliar with the place. 00:03:58.713 --> 00:04:00.273 Don't know where to start. 00:04:01.153 --> 00:04:04.313 You have been working as a restaurant owner since you were at your parents' house. 00:04:04.313 --> 00:04:08.273 With little capital left, I opened a small restaurant. 00:04:08.893 --> 00:04:11.653 The work is very hard because I have two small children. 00:04:12.553 --> 00:04:16.133 However, because my skills are quite good, the restaurant is quite crowded. 00:04:17.013 --> 00:04:20.494 Every time he comes to deliver, he sees me chopping, slicing, and bringing 00:04:20.494 --> 00:04:21.833 it out to the customer. 00:04:22.413 --> 00:04:25.133 He also took the initiative to lend a hand. 00:04:26.233 --> 00:04:28.893 The first few times I felt very shy, so I refused. 00:04:29.133 --> 00:04:31.513 Then he said, he is free for the last shipment. 00:04:31.973 --> 00:04:33.553 I invite you to dinner later. 00:04:33.553 --> 00:04:35.353 Consider it as payment. 00:04:35.853 --> 00:04:39.053 Just like that, we gradually had stories to tell each other. 00:04:39.313 --> 00:04:42.933 Instead of just talking about money like the early days. 00:04:45.320 --> 00:04:48.600 Every time I come to deliver goods, I see you alone, working hard. 00:04:49.440 --> 00:04:52.880 I was going to ask where my husband was, but I saw the two children playing with each other. 00:04:53.580 --> 00:04:55.240 I asked then found out the situation. 00:04:56.360 --> 00:05:00.120 The two children are beautiful as angels, with clear eyes like their mother. 00:05:01.100 --> 00:05:06.840 I love kids, so sometimes I buy candy or ice cream for the kids when I deliver. 00:05:07.740 --> 00:05:10.120 The two of them saw me gradually become determined. 00:05:11.080 --> 00:05:13.200 Sometimes I see the kids' mother lingering with guests. 00:05:13.200 --> 00:05:18.300 I was a bit shy at that time, so I just stayed outside playing with the kids 00:05:18.300 --> 00:05:19.500 after delivering the goods. 00:05:20.560 --> 00:05:25.120 Until I saw her sweating profusely, her look of resignation and head 00:05:25.120 --> 00:05:26.640 down was very pitiful. 00:05:27.440 --> 00:05:30.560 A feeling of sympathy for her suddenly arose in my heart. 00:05:31.840 --> 00:05:36.133 So I went into the house to wash vegetables, sometimes when there were no 00:05:36.133 --> 00:05:38.280 more customers I helped wash the dishes. 00:05:39.800 --> 00:05:42.560 Dinner her, me and two kids. 00:05:42.560 --> 00:05:48.912 It looked like a family, and because of my frequent appearances, she 00:05:48.912 --> 00:05:50.500 was gossiped about. 00:05:53.579 --> 00:05:58.683 My landlady poked me in the arm and said that an uncle from the next street 00:05:58.683 --> 00:05:59.959 was interested in me. 00:06:00.639 --> 00:06:05.302 He is over 50 years old, has a wife and grown children, so he wants someone 00:06:05.302 --> 00:06:06.759 to take care of him. 00:06:07.439 --> 00:06:10.279 Basically he is trying to talk me into remarrying. 00:06:10.959 --> 00:06:14.199 Knowing my situation, she added another sentence. 00:06:15.059 --> 00:06:21.379 Oh my god, two husbands, what's there to be afraid of, he's a decent person. 00:06:21.379 --> 00:06:25.699 She told the truth, if you marry him, your child will have a father and 00:06:25.699 --> 00:06:27.139 he will have a salary. 00:06:27.759 --> 00:06:31.019 Who would dare to marry a man with two husbands? 00:06:32.719 --> 00:06:36.454 She didn't pay any attention to my expression, just kept talking to 00:06:36.454 --> 00:06:37.699 please her shallow mouth. 00:06:38.719 --> 00:06:42.379 Seeing that I was not satisfied, she pursed her lips as if she had just 00:06:42.379 --> 00:06:44.819 smelled a piece of burnt meat from the afternoon market. 00:06:45.639 --> 00:06:48.659 Not only that, she also whispered a sentence after leaving. 00:06:49.459 --> 00:06:51.039 That guy is a ranker. 00:06:51.379 --> 00:06:55.979 It just wants to have fun with you, why bother showing off? 00:06:58.666 --> 00:07:03.026 Seeing her sitting at the tea table, I also vaguely heard the story. 00:07:04.026 --> 00:07:09.106 Not knowing how to comfort her, I just said, "What do you care about other people's mouths?" 00:07:09.846 --> 00:07:13.375 Just focus on raising your children, then buy more land and move 00:07:13.375 --> 00:07:14.846 the store to avoid trouble. 00:07:17.009 --> 00:07:18.789 She just looked at me with a puzzled look. 00:07:19.609 --> 00:07:21.189 Then pour me a cup of tea. 00:07:22.129 --> 00:07:24.849 Then suddenly she told about her miserable life. 00:07:26.049 --> 00:07:30.729 Until now, I am still bothered by my ex-husband even though I left empty-handed. 00:07:31.609 --> 00:07:36.166 But whenever he was short of money or wanted to ask for help, he would find 00:07:36.166 --> 00:07:38.729 every way to contact and beg to borrow money. 00:07:39.929 --> 00:07:43.909 Because of respect and also not wanting him to come and ruin her new life. 00:07:44.649 --> 00:07:46.949 I still accept to transfer money to him every month. 00:07:47.009 --> 00:07:51.949 This makes me work hard to raise my children. 00:07:52.669 --> 00:07:56.549 Can't afford to have a home. 00:07:59.737 --> 00:08:06.289 Maybe because I was lonely for too long, and afraid of men, I never shared with 00:08:06.289 --> 00:08:08.337 anyone about my past life. 00:08:09.357 --> 00:08:15.977 I'm miserable enough, I don't need to complain to gain sympathy from others. 00:08:17.057 --> 00:08:22.128 Not to mention, in this half-country, half-city hideout, if I don't put on a 00:08:22.128 --> 00:08:23.577 funeral face every day, 00:08:24.217 --> 00:08:27.917 then maybe i also can't be at peace with men who like fat. 00:08:27.917 --> 00:08:32.777 He appeared in my life, gradually as a friend. 00:08:33.797 --> 00:08:39.277 He and I didn't talk much, except about whether prices increased or decreased today. 00:08:39.717 --> 00:08:45.405 Gradually, through meals and watching him play with my children, I 00:08:45.405 --> 00:08:46.957 gradually developed sympathy. 00:08:47.957 --> 00:08:52.437 Asked him and found out he was also hurt and still couldn't heal. 00:08:53.117 --> 00:08:57.477 He chose to flee his homeland, even though his elderly parents were still there, 00:08:57.917 --> 00:09:02.277 and always use him to find a matchmaker, to settle down. 00:09:03.557 --> 00:09:06.617 In fact, parents have their own way of loving their children. 00:09:07.137 --> 00:09:11.172 But only those in the same situation can understand why there are 00:09:11.172 --> 00:09:12.517 wounds that never heal. 00:09:14.037 --> 00:09:17.377 I sympathize with you more, after knowing your story. 00:09:17.877 --> 00:09:20.697 And I think, you too. 00:09:24.044 --> 00:09:29.388 It's been more than a year since I met and worked with you. My two children 00:09:29.388 --> 00:09:30.724 see me as family. 00:09:31.744 --> 00:09:36.944 Some men saw my frequent appearance and stopped teasing me. 00:09:38.184 --> 00:09:41.324 I'm still the same, nimble and quick. 00:09:42.344 --> 00:09:46.104 Once, because it was so cold, my feet were swollen after a day of standing at work. 00:09:47.424 --> 00:09:50.104 Seems to have gotten used to having to take care of himself alone. 00:09:50.104 --> 00:09:54.024 She told me to wait a moment and then went to boil some herbal 00:09:54.024 --> 00:09:55.424 water to soak my feet. 00:09:57.024 --> 00:09:59.684 An indescribable pity arose in my heart. 00:10:00.604 --> 00:10:03.761 I couldn't hide my feelings, I picked her up and put her on the chair 00:10:03.761 --> 00:10:05.024 and told her to sit still. 00:10:05.884 --> 00:10:09.604 I boiled herbal water, rubbed oil and massaged her feet to warm them up. 00:10:11.384 --> 00:10:13.904 Looking up, I saw her tears streaming down her face. 00:10:14.944 --> 00:10:17.484 We broke the invisible veil from that day. 00:10:18.164 --> 00:10:20.084 Both were full of wounds. 00:10:20.104 --> 00:10:21.904 Warm each other up. 00:10:25.469 --> 00:10:28.489 I thought happiness was mistakenly kindled behind bitter trees. 00:10:29.889 --> 00:10:32.869 Little did he know, that was just the beginning of his fate. 00:10:34.329 --> 00:10:37.629 I don't know where the news came from that he was having an affair with a woman who had been married twice. 00:10:38.489 --> 00:10:41.969 each child has a father, me, has reached his parents' ears. 00:10:42.949 --> 00:10:46.486 His mother had to be hospitalized after hearing the news and has not been 00:10:46.486 --> 00:10:47.749 home for a long time. 00:10:48.469 --> 00:10:51.389 He came back in a hurry and told me to rest assured. 00:10:51.389 --> 00:10:54.849 I'm grown up and will take care of family matters, 00:10:55.289 --> 00:10:58.249 At the same time, advise parents to reduce prejudice. 00:10:59.329 --> 00:11:03.889 He said if his parents met me, they would definitely like me. 00:11:05.449 --> 00:11:09.909 That said, looking into his eyes, I saw love. 00:11:11.089 --> 00:11:13.889 I have never compared myself with other girls, 00:11:14.149 --> 00:11:18.449 or think that you will love me the way you loved your ex. 00:11:19.669 --> 00:11:20.889 Between us, perhaps... 00:11:21.389 --> 00:11:24.909 is empathy for similar hurts, 00:11:25.829 --> 00:11:28.129 sympathy for leaving home to start a business together, 00:11:28.789 --> 00:11:33.769 and the loneliness of two empty souls pulled us together. 00:11:35.369 --> 00:11:40.669 Love, two husbands passed through my life with different tragedies 00:11:40.669 --> 00:11:43.869 made me lose faith in the so-called love. 00:11:45.209 --> 00:11:48.629 With you, I dare not be too picky. 00:11:50.958 --> 00:11:54.361 My mother had a stroke when she heard that I was having an affair with a 00:11:54.361 --> 00:11:55.638 woman who had been married twice. 00:11:56.598 --> 00:11:59.138 Luckily, the emergency room was in time so she only had to rest. 00:12:00.718 --> 00:12:04.218 Seeing me after more than a year away from home, she cried and grimaced, 00:12:04.718 --> 00:12:08.348 Tell me what kind of witch's spell I'm under that makes a virgin fall in 00:12:08.348 --> 00:12:09.558 love with a girl twice. 00:12:10.658 --> 00:12:16.078 Once is too much, but twice and each child has a different father. 00:12:17.138 --> 00:12:18.878 I heard that and objected. 00:12:18.878 --> 00:12:23.418 Who wants that, mom? Who doesn't want to be fulfilled? 00:12:24.098 --> 00:12:26.578 People are just unlucky, they did nothing wrong. 00:12:28.358 --> 00:12:32.648 My mother heard me defending her and got angry, calling my father to join in 00:12:32.648 --> 00:12:34.078 and teach her son back. 00:12:34.798 --> 00:12:36.758 Old and stupid to let girls lie. 00:12:38.638 --> 00:12:42.568 Only during the days with my parents did I understand the prejudice 00:12:42.568 --> 00:12:43.878 against bachelors marrying widows. 00:12:44.458 --> 00:12:47.558 It still haunts and tests the elderly in the countryside clearly. 00:12:47.558 --> 00:12:54.058 No matter if your child is happy or not, it's just a shame on the parents. 00:12:54.818 --> 00:13:00.428 My mother even brought up the fact that my ex-lover had given birth to a son and 00:13:00.428 --> 00:13:05.378 was living happily with me as proof that I was not going straight and was 00:13:05.378 --> 00:13:06.698 going into the bushes. 00:13:11.603 --> 00:13:16.023 Ladies and gentlemen, a woman has gone through two unhappy marriages. 00:13:16.923 --> 00:13:20.383 A guy goes through a love affair but is still a virgin. 00:13:21.023 --> 00:13:24.723 They came together as two friends, they loved each other as two lovers. 00:13:25.523 --> 00:13:28.310 The story would not have been worth mentioning if it had not been for 00:13:28.310 --> 00:13:29.703 the resistance of the young man's family. 00:13:30.303 --> 00:13:34.017 His mother had a stroke when she learned that her son loved a woman 00:13:34.017 --> 00:13:35.343 who had been married twice. 00:13:36.223 --> 00:13:37.983 What happens after this incident? 00:13:37.983 --> 00:13:44.663 Please continue to follow our story broadcast on Lao Dong TV this Sunday.